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Here is something to consider. I have travelled around guatemala and seen things that will haunt me the rest of my life, all in respect to the plight of children. There is absolutely no state aid for families and children and only so many orphanages which are usually overpopulated with those fortunate enough to be taken in. We all know that boys are left waiting and waiting for families and alot of them are returned to their birthfamilies if an Adoptive family is not found. Children as young as 2-3 years old are turned out on the streets to fend for themselves. Many end up living at the dumps just hoping to score a couple bites of a rotten sandwich to sustain life. Kids murder kids over food, adults murder street kids because they are nuisance, many end up sniffing glue to distract from hunger frying their brains or accidentally killing themselves,....so much suffering. From my point of view, in respect to Guatemala, a life with a healthy father and terminally ill mother is a life far better than many of those children will have in their future. Yes I do think intentionally subjecting a child to the future loss of a parent is better than any of the situations I have described above. Many of these children have no future, unlike children in state run orphanages here in the US.
I volunteered at an orphanage that was way out in the country on one of my trips and I passed a dead child lying on the road enroute. With my limited english I tried to get the driver to stop but he refused explaining "no food", "no family",, "dead"....meaning that the child had probably died from starvation and there was nothing to be done. That is one of many haunting experiences. I have no doubt that child would have been far better if he had been placed for adoption and experienced the loss of one AP.
Just my opinion of course and I do understand the concerns of subjecting a child to the probable death of an adoptive parent. However I am weighing the pros and cons of Guatemalan adoption which leads me to my personal belief.
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