lisamarie8, welcome to the forum. I would be happy to communicate with you offlist should you need anything. Please don't hesitate to PM.
Spay I find your reply to be insensitive and yes it is mean. Is it really your position to point out who deserves to parent a child? I am not entirely healthy and it brings comfort to know that if something were to happen to me I would have left my husband with a son and my son with a father.