Although I do have a good reunion with my son it's has been difficult at times as well as having a dysfuntional family. My son found my family (in about 1999/2000) before I found him (Aug 2004)...long story why they didn't tell him where I was but enough said that I haven't spoken to my sister since early 1999. My son still talks to my dad but hasn't spoken to my mum since 2001 as she doesn't want to talk to him. He has had contact with my sister but by the sound of it it's been a while since the last contact. Of my three nieces he got on best with the middle one but hasn't had contact with her for a long or with the others for that matter. My in-laws on the other hand have accepted him although only one of my in laws and her husband have met him.
I suffer with depression which my son knows about but accepts and knows I'm dealing with it now thanks to a sensible doctor who listened to me and took me seriously. At times last year I went for a while of feeling I couldn't cope with reunion but since I've had proper help I can now.
Reunion doesn't work for everybody though for various reasons so I do believe you should do what's best for you. If this means pulling away completely or pulling back for a while do it for your own health as much as anything.
Pip
