As far as I know, I'm biologically able to have a baby. Not sure, since I've never tried! DH, however, had a vasectomy after his 3rd child from his first marriage was born.
I have wanted to adopt since I knew what the word meant. Can't say why -- just something I felt "called" to do. So when we started discussing our options for having a child together, we decided to take the money that could have paid for a vasectomy reversal (which might not have worked anyway) or a sperm donor and put it toward adoption. Now we are in the "home stretch" of finally being able to bring our Guatemalan daughter home!
We've had some comments -- some naive, some just mean. For example, we've heard:
"I could never love a child that didn't come out of my own body."
"Why not just wait a little longer for a white kid?"
"What if you get pregnant? Would you cancel the adoption because you'd have a real family instead?"
And this one's not so mean, but I get it a lot: "You are so brave and noble. I could never do it." No, I don't think I'm brave or noble, I just want to be a Mommy!
Fortunately, these are the exceptions. Most of our friends and both of our families think it's the greatest thing in the world.
