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Here's an update and question that I cross-posted on the Attachment and Bonding thread:
I mentioned earlier that our oldest (just turned 8, repeating 1st grade) had her IQ tested for her IEP last year (score of 69) and again this Fall (70). You (LucyJoy and FH-Lorraine) had both warned me not to put too much stock into the numbers since she's somewhere on the Attachment Disorder spectrum.
Well, here's an example of the way she talks (she asked this tonight at supper of her 4-yr-old sister who received a cupcake at preschool yesterday for Kyle's birthday. He's a child at her preschool.):
"L, what you did have fun with Kyle birthday?" (I think she meant "What fun thing did you do for Kyle's birthday?"
She rarely structures sentences correctly on the first try, in writing OR verbally, and she's in speech and language therapy. She reads pretty well, though, (other than substituting "did" for "do" or "do" for "does," etc.)and receives 100% on all of her spelling tests. The math is a struggle, but it's beginning to click. We're really concerned about the language (ability to communicate). We'll correct her by rephrasing her statement as an intelligible question. Like: "Yes, L, what fun thing DID you DO for Kyle's birthday yesterday?" Occasionally we'll stop her and correct her, and she'll repeat the sentence correctly. But 5 minutes later she'll say it wrong again in conversation with her sisters. Ugh.
Does this sound like attachment, or a true disability? Or maybe it's just that old habits die hard??? Her speech and language special ed teacher said that some of this could be cultural (her foster home was in an economically depressed area, very few high school graduates), but that much of it is due to her IQ and she may not be "educable." ???!!! She does SEEM to be "mildly mentally handicapped" and she has lots of friends, so she's somehow able to express herself with them. I'm just curious, I guess. Thanks!
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