*I posted this on another thread, but I think it might have been the wrong place*
Hi there! This is my first post, after reading post for several years now, I finally have a question that I do not know where to even start finding answers!
Just over 5 years ago I was living in New Orleans, and my best friend's young niece became pregnant. Well, I have had some physical problems and am unable to have children. To make this long story short she asked me to adopt the baby. which at that time I was 28 and single, but wanted a baby! Well, needless to say my little guy is now a wonderful, beautiful 5 year old!
I am originally from PA and we moved back up here several years ago.
Shortly after Danny was born, I reunited with an old boyfriend. And again to make a long story short....we were married shortly after the adoption process was finalized and Danny had my maiden name and I a new name. Well, between buying a new home and doing this and that, we realized that Danny did not have our last name and he will be starting school soon!
Danny has only ever known my husband as Daddy and his name as our last name, never using my maiden name. It has just been a very natural process in all honesty. however, we need to have my husband formally adopt Danny. (It is actually funny cuz Danny looks so much like my husband that no one would ever guess otherwise)
Now when I was going through the adoption process it was brutal! I was single and let me tell you "they" seemed to be all in my business!
I am curious if we are going to have to go through a home study again? do we have to hire another attorney? What do they require of my husband? Are they going to pour over financial information again? How long will the process take? (His place of birth is New Orleans, and of course that in itself makes me worry about how long the paperwork will take!)
I know that the adoption process made me feel kinda crappy at time....people asking questions, coming into my home...basically quizzing me to decide if I can be a good parent. I do not want to put my husband through this nor do i want Danny to have to go through it, cuz that is his Daddy!
Sorry for the long story, but both my guys mean the world to me and I want this just to be smooth and simple.
any help/advice would be greatly appreciated
thank you!
cherishtoday
