[LisaCA]

dh and I made the decision to adopt assuming we'd want children when we became engaged almost 20 years ago. when we finally got around to admitting we were ready for kids, I was offered a job about 400 miles away. so for two years we lived apart. since we figured no one would let us adopt given the fact that we were in separate households except for occasional weekends, we decided to ttc. Okay, so living apart makes it a tad difficult, but we tried. even had a little intervention, but no luck. I'm not one to consider myself infertile-it wasn't our first choice nor was it too devastating when it didn't work (I really didn't want to be pregnant, but I didn't want to be quite so old at dd's birth either. i've gotten over the age thing-mostly, lol).

anyway, to cut to the chase, we do get many a weird comment about adoption being our first choice. we felt, and still feel, that there are many children in this country that need homes. we had the means and the desire to adopt so why not? that's not to put down those who would like to be pregnant-i think that's great. It just seemed if I didn't want to be, and I really wanted to adopt, why not?

we do get occasional comments about "now that we've adopted we'll get pregnant", often from folks who don't know us ( ). If I'm really appalled I'll say something with way too much info, like "hmmm, that would be interesting, because we're not even trying." that usually shuts them up, lol.

so far my favorite comment was from this little old white lady who met me on the bus and after a short conversation, said "why, you and your husband are the type that should have children" . so glad she's not in charge of the world's reproduction . As sneezyone says, some folks just don't get it.

oh and it wasn't a problem with bparents. we were chosen rather quickly.

Lisa