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All these assumptions drive me crazy too. I've encountered them in a more professional situation as well and struggled with how to handle them.

FWIW... I don't believe you can "spoil" your child although my DD has a hard time going to sleep for anyone but me or her Daddy too. Maybe it's all the rocking! I have to say that it is more about me and my need to be close to her, as we waited so long for her and I can't get enough.

"you don't just adopt a child and put it in care"... now that REALLY bugs me. I am a SAHM by my choosing, but not because DD is adopted. It's those kind of statements that really make me wonder if people will ever get it.