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Originally Posted By Ashley

Our oldest and dearest friends (the wife who was adopted at 1 with hip displasyia) wrote us to tell us how horrible it was that we were adopting. That our adoptive child was going to bring harm unto our son and that we were getting someones "old used car". They had the nerve to tell us they didn't have their approval and that we shouldn't do it. Like after all that we even wanted them as friends anymore. NOT!

Then my husbands brother called us to tell us we can't adopt because we didn't have enough money to do so. That he was a terrible father and husband (he is the best father and husband I have ever met AND this idiot has only seen us 4 times since we were married). Needless to say we haven't talked to him since.

And then we had people coming out of the wood work asking if we could handle an adoption finacially. Like our finaces are any of their business.

They have said, "well you aren't going to adopt a child who is ***** (insert your other race here) are you" and they have said "Don't adopt a child with any problems." Like birth children don't have their "problems". My womens group newsletter keeps writing "please pray for Ashley and John while they are waiting to adopt a "special needs" child" I can't understand why they can't just say "child"!

And everyone wants to know what kind of "problems" our next child is going to have. That really annoys the &*^( out of me! I don't just walk up to anyone on the street and say "what kind of problems do you have?" My husband and I have agreed that we aren't going to disclose to anyone what issues our children may be dealing with and what has brought them into the foster care system. I hate that, because I don't believe in hiding things. But it just seems like people will use that against our child. I can see people branding our child with a scarlet letter.

Now, I will step off my soap box,

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Ashley