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I totally agree with you. Why is it that it is allright for people to make totally rude comments to those of us trying to adopt older kids? You're SO right about how these things are NEVER asked to people who are pregnant, just given birth, or are adopting babies.

I've found my social circle changing since I began my Adoption Quest. Some good friends have been sidelined becuase they are unable (or unwilling) to accept what I am doing. I've been told I should just "get married and have NORMAL kids", "just get a dog", and "give up on this nonsense. These kids are in foster care becuase they're BAD NEWS" (I ALMOST cold-cocked the friend who said that).

Even my ever-classy sister and brother-in-law have now chimed in. Their newest edict states that, when my son comes, he will NOT be allowed at their house unless I am in the same ROOM with him at all times (I didnt ask if this included the bathroom). Their logic is that they don't want him to be a bad influence on their daughter. I almost repsonded "Well, there goes my plan to distract you while he steals the silver." I just ignore them.

I thank God that I have found NEW friends (even a couple from this board) who i can call when I'm stressed, who can give the voice of experience, and even make a road-trip with.