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I couldn't be shocked/offended/disgusted/etc. at the things people have the nerve to say, I was proven wrong. Yesterday at work (I'm a nurse, pediatric ICU) I spoke on the phone to a colleague who gave birth the day before. When I got off the phone I turned around to say Hi to one of the docs and when she inquired about how our son is, I told her we are in the process of visiting a little girl who we hope to adopt. She looked at me and said, "Is she normal?" What???!!!??? Can you imagine if I'd just have asked my new-mom colleague that when she was telling me about her baby? How offensive! I told her that I thought it was an offensive thing to say and I found it very rude and inappropriate.

Last week my BEST FRIEND told me that she hoped we didn't feel that just because we'd started visitation we were "obligated to take this girl". What???!!!??? Can you imagine if, when she was pregnant, I told her that she shouldn't consider herself "obligated to keep the baby", I mean, what if the baby ended up having something wrong with it?? AARRGGHH!!!!

I really appreciate this board. I think there are VERY FEW people who understand older child/special needs adoption and that most of those people can be found reading/writing to this board! You are all very supportive and compassionate. Thanks!