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Hi Badie,
I wanted to say congratulations on your decision to adopt. After fertility treatments, you'll be prepared for the continued roller coaster.. I expected it not to be as difficult as IVF... and in lots of ways it's not, but I had no idea how hard this would be!!! I just wanted to give you a "head's up" because if you and your dh are like us...you are likely very hopeful (a good thing) that this will be safer then fertility, and more in your control. It can still be very difficult.. just an FYI. But, I'm told it's all worth it in the end. :-)
I also wanted to let you know, that it is possible to adopt a healthy white infant domestically.
DH and I signed on with an agency with few limitations.. we did not want to bite off more than we could chew.. being first time parents, we knew we would not be ready for a special needs child. So, we put on our application that we would be interested in any child, without known special needs.
We agreed that we would be okay with any race.
We've been matched with several pbmom's. Most have them been CC with CC pbdad's, too. A couple have been filipino, hispanic, and AA.
The one we are matched with currently that is looking pretty good (so far, knock on wood!) is a CC woman and the pbdad is CC as well. And they are both healthy. And the baby, as far as can be seen on ultrasound, is healthy, too.
I just wanted to let you know. It can be a major roller coaster. But, it's not impossible.
Whatever you decide, make sure you and your dh are comfortable with it. Someone on here said once that they agreed that if either of them had an issue with a potential situation, they would not move forward with it. And it's helped them. And, her suggestion has helped us, too. If we're not both on board, then we'll wait for the one until we both are.
Just take your time researching. We are adopting through an agency. And they have been wonderful for the most part. But it's more expensive than other ways. I wish I had done more research.
Good luck in your journey. Hope to see you around here more!!! Hope I didn't scare you, I don't mean to! I just wish I had a head's up myself!!!
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