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Just want to add one more thing. I do not mean to sound so harsh or mean. What I do hope to do, is make others who cannot or will not understand how this kind of situation happens....simply take the time to think that 'hey....I suppose it might be the best thing to do'.
And....I want to add (because it was too late to edit the original post)...that in the incidents I wrote about, some have occurred in our home, others have happened in the homes of others that belong to a support group. Certainly, I could write about even more situations that might make one's hair stand on end.
Initially, I was one of the 'How could THEY??!?!?' people. I had read about, and stood aghast to think that anyone could walk away from their child!!! But, like marriages, most people go into the relationship feeling completely committed. The problems come about (in these cases)......when the 'real' child is discovered. It's much like marrying someone, only to discover in a few months or years, that they get a thrill in abusing you to a pulp. And when you go into counseling and therapy to help that marriage survive---and nothing changes---you finally turn around one day and say, 'Hey, if I stay in this situation...and if the kids stay in this situation, someone's gonna die!
With that knowledge, you can either take the chance that you or your innocent child is going to be killed (by the abusive spouse).....or get out of the marriage. Still, that doesn't mean that when you went into this marriage, you were any less dedicated and well-intentioned to see it through until death?
Abuse, violence and injury are what they are. It shouldn't matter that any of these are inflicted by a teenager (and even younger)......instead of an adult. The actions and results are still the same. Sometimes, there just isn't any 'middle ground' or happy ending. Sometimes, they really are young criminals just waiting to be older......
Sincerely,
Linny
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