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In our case, the birthparents DID name our son (both of them actually but this discussion is about Indian adoptions). In fact, our Indian son was raised by his birthfather until the month before he turned 3. We may never know if his birthmother had anything to do with naming him, as she died when he was 2 days of age (his doctors suspect she likely had a mild variation of the same medical condition he has since its inherited from mother to son). But, we know not only did his birthfather name him, raise him for nearly 3 years. But, he was devestated to relinquish this child. The ONLY reason he relinquished this little boy for adoption was because it was truly a matter of life or death for this child.
I was not taking that away from this child, no matter how strange nor difficult the name might have been. I took that stance for both of our sons. They were both named by birthfamilies who raised them for the first years of their lives. And, they both came home at older ages.
As it turns out, while both names are obviously not American, they are not difficult to pronounce, at least not moreso than my own name which is Dutch in origin. And, I get all kinds of compliments for the boys names. I just smile and tell people that I can't take credit for their names, even if they are really amazing names.
Heck my own brother was born in West Virginia and because my father is second generation Dutch got saddled with the name Lamburtus as a middle name. Few names my children could come home with could be much worse than their own uncle's middle name!
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