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And the other women's daughter tried to ruin a mans life over an adult boyfriend. And the state gave these children power to lie by removing the father and leaving a mom alone to parent 4 very difficult kids who now had the power to threaten her if they didn't like her decisions.
I don't see a horrible mother. I see a mom who got pushed passed her limit and received zero support from the system or the people around her. And as a parent of tough kids, I know without a doubt that what you see on the surface is not anywhere near what lies underneath.
Parents are often discouraged from seeking help or are told that what they see is "normal" or told it's a family problem and to work it out. The youth pastor at church said he couldn't understand why I have problems with my son because he was fine with him. I seldom tell anyone around me what it's like to live with a person that holds so much anger because more often then not, the blame lands back on me.
My first questions are who helped this mom in the midst of this crisis? What could have been done sooner to salvage this family? I talk to families with difficult kids all the time and lack of support is the biggest reason for disruption. They get to a point where self preservation comes before everything else.
So, anytime a parent is condemned without all the facts, those of us that live this way are going to speak up.
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