[ingodshands]

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" It happens in bio families and nary a word is said but let it happen in an adoptive family(of which I may add the kids are so screwed up because of birthfamilies"

The kids are not always screwed up just because of their birthfamilies behaviour, sometimes it is because of previous foster parents behaviour too, what makes it worse is when they have been treated badly by birthfamily, previous foster parents and then their adoptive parents bail out on them too.

I understand that parenting a child with RAD must be incredibly difficult, but no foster or adoptive parent are made to do it, it is THEIR CHOICE, just as it is with bio families, difference is with foster and adoptive parents they are taking in sometimes fragile, disturbed, affected children because of other adults behaviour towards them. They should not take it upon themselves to do this if they cannot or will not see it through.

Collette