Another question to birthmoms and adoptive moms
If I send a gift it should be a small gift I thought about sending jewerly. I just don't want to upset her so maybe I should just send a card. I just don't know what to say???
I want her to know that we love her and she is in our thoughts on that day but will it be to painful???? Will it be a reminder of the pain? So i guess I would like to ask birthmoms if you feel ok to answer this if you get a gift on the baby birthday how did you feel and what should I be careful not to say in a card or letter to not upset ??? I never want to cause our birthmom any more pain I want her to know we love her so much???? But our birthmom does not talk about the baby with us very much so maybe I should not send a gift??? What to do???? PLease advise me I only have good intentions in my heart and I don't want her to think we forgot her on this day.
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