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I just wanted to say, to the original poster, my sons have been with us almost 6 and a half years. We have had a major regression over this past week dealing with a birthday, and I know that the counsellor our boys saw said that the kids regress and then move forward as they enter different phases of life.
Ages 5-6 is one, Ages 11-12 another, and then again 14-16 -- with some flexibility of those ages depending on the personality of your child. But I do know that issues like grief, loss and attachment have resurfaced during each stage so far with us. I dont know if you are ever completely "out of the woods" because I know I am constantly in tune to how they are emotionally doing, what I need to do to respond etc.
Jen
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Jensboys - Mom of 4 Boys (2 adopted, 2 biological)  Reunited Sister
Fostering Miss Tiny and Miss Curious - Two Months and 13 months when placed May, 2009
Blogging about reunion with our 14 year old, Not reuniting with our 13 year old, transracial parenting, adoption and life as a minority family in a rural community. And oh yeah, now I have cancer.
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