Thanks everyone for taking time to reply to my post. Ok - I'm on board. I'm an attachment practicing lunatic.
My hip hammock came in the mail yesterday. I'll try the swaddling thing after the bath and some "revised" holding time before bed, and keep going with the attachment games. I'll try to be strong and calm during the screaming. And when I can't take it anymore I'll figure out a way to get away. I'll also keep you posted on our progress. Wish me luck!!