[billysmommy]

My husband had the same fears, though his fears were based on the fact that he already had a biological child and was afraid the love would be "different". After we adopted our son - who incidentally he IMMEDIATELY fell head over heels in love with - we talked at length about it. One of the things that he pointed out was that he felt somewhat detached/uninvolved in the adoption process. It was me who dealt with the attorney (and SW and paperwork...), me who mostly spoke to first mom, and me who was present at our son's birth. I thought it was interesting .......and with our second adoption I kind of stepped back and let him do the work.