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I do have to say, that I was out of my "parent's" house at 16, so I didnt really have to contend with that issue. They have only been in my life for a few months at a time over the past 8 years... and not for a couple years.
So I wonder, when looking at Aurora, the daughter I parent, and Kristin, the daughter I do not.. if a big difference is that with Aurora, I got no outside influence. I never considered adoption... at all. with Kristin, I got quite a bit of outside influence... the pats on the back for "making the right choice" and the social worker as "my friend".. the morning that I signed the papers I even said to her that I needed her to come over so I could sign them now-- or else I wouldnt. Like you said... ensuring the adoption would go through.
So I liked your resources! I had WIC available to me with Aurora.. but was too proud to take it. I DID go to school on a grant at the time... but I guess I saw that as different... but not so much now.. both are government services to help the future! Doing it again.. of COURSE I would take the help.. I probably would have qualified for food stamps, too. All that taking the help would have done was make it a bit easier for me, freeing up cash for things like DIAPERS! Our area-- and I think most areas, now-- had a child resource and referal service... I had a baby sitter that I paid $50 a week for! She spoke mostly Spanish.. but still took great care of Aurora. I know now that I could have qualified for a daycare program and paid as low as $1 a day!!
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