[okstategrads]

Hi Hilery,

I can relate to your feelings. We tried to get pregnant for almost 7 years before we decided to adopt. The first 3-4 years were the hardest when dealing with friends/family that were expecting. I also taught high school, and remember seeing pregnant teenagers and thinking how unfair life was that these girls could get pregnant and I couldn't.
With that being said, I honestly believe the twinges of jealousy went away when we decided to adopt. I remember sitting in an adoption seminar and the guest speaker making a comment about how she and her dh went to look at carseats and then out for margaritas afterwards (something you can't or aren't supposed to do if you're pregnant). We brought our daughter home at 4.5 months old and I must admit, those feelings were completly gone.
On the flipside, we were one of those couples that got pregnant after our adoption was final. So, I got to experiece both. Pregnancy and the newborn stage were ok, but honestly, if we were going to have another child, we would adopt. Good luck to you and know that the child you're meant to have is waiting for you no matter how she gets here.

Hugs,