[tobeafamily]

It's perfectly normal to be concerned about this. It's also normal for attachment to take time- it's a process, not a moment.

For us, in the beginning I swear both DH and I kept thinking "OK this was fun now his parents will come get him....oh yeah" Ryan had some digestion issues, meaning our first weeks were a nightmare (thank God for Nutramigen is all I can say about that). Three weeks after he came I told our SW "There's a reason I can't give birth because I'm not cut out for this!" (she laughed BTW).

We were lucky - our ped is an adad also (didn't know that when we selected him). He was very supportive, even insisting that he would not respond to me until I called myself "MOM". We followed Dr. Sears' attachment parenting, 'wore' him in a sling (we all loved that), held him constantly. I knew I was sunk when he got his first shots and had his first real tears. I nearly decked the nurse for making MY baby cry.

So yes, it's normal to be concerned. Read up on attachment parenting, that helps. It's a process though, and not exclusive to children raised by their biological parents.

HTH

Regina