My daughter has been home almost a year now.
She had a few attachment issues - mainly in her openness to strangers to the point where she went to a stranger and wanted to be picked up/hugged on 2 occasions. That was in July after several hospitalizations and when we were away at my sisters wedding. She always had great eye contact, gives me and DH kisses and hugs when asked and on her own.
DH has started to work for someone else (was self employed so he was at home a lot). So my mom is going to watch her 3 full days a week. (She was watching her 3 1/2 days before). Either DH or I are home the other days. Right now DH gets her up, fed dressed and my mom comes over.
Here is my dilema - DH's day is supposed to start at 6:30 am but he doesn't usually get their til 9 so he can dress/feed etc our daughter. DH's boss is totally fine with that. But DH want's to start being there for 6:30 and have his mother come here and get Aisling up, fed, dressed etc and stay til my mom is here.
When I told DH I thought we should be the primary care giver as much as possible still due to some of her attachment issues - his reply is - she's been home a year, she has no more attachment issues. We really need the extra few dollars he could make but I'm not sure it's worth it at the moment. I definitely think Aisling is soooooo much more attached now than she was in July but she is still more friendly than I like towards strangers (not all the time, sometimes she defiinitely sticks to us). I also haven't exactly given her the opportunity to go running to a stranger for a hug either...
Sorry so long but I guess I would like the opinions of those of you that get it...DH has only read a few articles on attachment that I have given him but on the other hand I definitely don't want to be too neurotic about it...
thanks in advance-
Karen