[Fran27]

Thanks for the feedback Lisa! I definitely agree that it's important to see negative sides in something also, even if it's just to try to make up for it.

I have the open adoption book by Bruce M.Rappaport, it's the one that was given to us by my agency. It's pretty well done, my only complain is that it's maybe a bit too positive about open adoption, and isn't always realistic about the relationships between birthparents and adoptive parents (although I don't have any personal experience it's not the same impression I got from reading these forums for example).