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OK UPDATE:

My friend and dh and I talked at length this am about this situation. My friend is not ready for a child now. Whether she could or not. Dh and I agreed we were not ready to add another child right now, but we couldn't stop thinking about it.......so we called the grandmother and got more details.

The baby girl is 4 mo not 8. She is currently back with her mother and the mother does want to try and parent. This made me really breathe a sigh of releif bc as we all know if she can do it it is the best. The problem is she has been going back and forth on this for the past 4 mo. And that is not good for a child OMHO. We found out the mother has 2 other children one is adopted in CA the other lives with the grandmother. The grandmother wants to have a few possibilities for aparents in place just in case the mother chooses to abandon the baby again. So DFACS wont take the child.

I have received a few pm's so I wanted to update this thread so everyone knows as of today this is not a good situation for someone looking to adopt. If it changes I will keep everyone here in mind.

Crina - Thanks for the works of encouragement. Boy, Guilt is a terrible emotion. I wanted to go rescue this child all night, but I had to remember that dd is my priority and I want her to have me and dh for a year at least before we add another child to the family. She deserves that. I really hope the mother can figure out how to parent this baby. If not I have decided I will get involved as far as I can. If only for emotional support.