[timni]

My best friend lives with us. Not because she has to but because she wants to be apart of a family. She is a successful professional and today when she arrived home she was telling me about a meeting she had today about me. One of her coleagues asked if we wanted to adopt again. When she asked why they said there was an 8 month old biracial girl who was going to need a good adoptive family and the grandmother didn't want DFACS involved, (GA DFACS isn't known for their successes and a lot of people here don't have a lot of confindence in the system after a few incidences recently.)

Wow was that a mind blower. Of course with dd only 5 months old and us still paying the lawyer for her finalization we really can't. It just isn't the right timing. If it was a year from now no question but not now.

So I asked my friend if she wanted to adopt this child (this is something we have discussed at length b/c my friend was raised in the foster care system and made it out the other side) She made the comment that she lives with us how can she raise a child. That got me to thinking even more. I feel like she wants to but is afraid.

SO HERE IS MY QUESTION: Should I talk to my friend more about it and show her how she could do it, or should I respect her answer and let it go? We are so close it is scary and it is not like I feel I can't say anything to her I just know how much dd had healed my heart and life and I think my friend really has so much love to give to a child especially one who has had a rough time.

OK SECOND QUESTION: What do I do with my mind. I don't think I can just forget about this little girl. Should I try to find an adoptive family or let it go. I so want to just run and go get her tonight what ever the costs even though I know I can't.

Kind and not so kind advice is requested here. I really am in a pickle.

Thanks everyone.