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Originally Posted by bumblebeeskies
I believe that what you posted was way out of line!
You want to know what I got out of your post from reading "between the lines"? You want her baby! Your post wouldn't have been so bad, if I hadn't already known that you have two adopted children!
You stated:
So now she is pregnant. The father is a high school drop out loser. She is planning on keeping the baby (who by the way will be biracial).
That comment reminded me of gossippy women sitting around and someone whispering, "if that's not bad enough, the child will be half black"
However, you don't really want to "support" her as you titled your post, you want to talk her into giving it up for adoption-How convenient for you BTW. Do you have no regard to what adoption does to people? If she has chosen to keep her child, and can do so adequately, why instead plead with her to change her mind? Do you really want to see your friend's daughter go through years of pain and heartache? What if in 16 or 17 years it was your daughter?
I commend her mom in being supportive of her wanting to keep the baby. I'm sure that it wasn't news she was expecting to hear, but at least she is truely being supportive-Not plotting in her head about how to get her daughter to give her child up for adoption!
As for you, I think I'd probably be banned if I said what I actually thought of you.  |
bumblebeeskies,
I don't even know where to start with you. First correction, I don't have 2 adopted children. I have one bio and one adopted.
If you think your familiar with me, why don't you check out all of the other posts I have written on these boards. Then come back and tell me what you really thought of me. I am sure you will be sorry for what you said.
From what I can tell from your reply to my post, you are a VERY angry person. Are you a bmom or an adoptee?
As a person touched by adoption, I view adoption as a VERY POSITIVE, BEAUTIFUL, LOVING and WONDERFUL experience.
I have already asked my friend what her daughter thought about adoption. She said she would never do it. No problem- END OF DISCUSSION! Geez!
As far as talking about the birth father- I was telling the truth about this guy. No, it doesn't make a difference that she is white and he is black. I just wanted to provide all of the details relating to her life and her pregnancy. I was ASKING for advise.
Oh, and by the way- I just spoke with my friend a short while ago. Right now, her daughter is on the fence as to terminate the pregnancy or keep the baby.
Lastly, if in 16 or 17 years my daughter gets pregnant, I can't honestly say what I would say or do. If she was that age now- she would not be keeping the baby.