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1. The issue of bi-raciality:
Statistically, bi-racial babies have a drastically lower adoption rate. Specifically because of people who worry about that sort of thing, like you.
So unless you do want her child, you're advising her to take a very long shot chance at her child finding a good home.
However, thankfully the type of morons who worry about that sort of thing are getting less and less. Maybe her child would've gotten lucky.
2. Family, close friend, whatever your relationship with her (and I'm unclear as to whether you're friends with the mother or the mother-to-be) you have a right to state your opinion.
Once her decision has been made, however, you do not have the right to KEEP expressing your opinion. That, my dear, is the definition of a jerk.
If you do actually care, as opposed to just being nosey and controlling, think of ways to help her decision become the right one (as opposed to hampering her with doubts and waiting till it fails so you can feel justified).
3. The attitude you come across as having is, in my opinion, a very large reason of why abortion is sought after. You make things sound dirty and impossible.
It'll take too long to go into the full reasoning behind the connection, but hopefully you can see the direction.
Don't hinder her because you don't even realize you feel threatened by her being stronger than you think you might be.
And if the person above who mentioned you might want the child for yourself (I kinda doubt it because it's clear you're racially prejudiced) is even remotely possible, I beg you to get ahold of yourself.
The bottom line is help this young lady make her decision work. Respect her, don't assume she's wrong because of your own fears, apprehensions and prejudices.
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