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Originally Posted by mom2justynsarah
My friend just found out her 17 year old daughter is pregnant (due in December). So this is a VERY early pregnancy.
"J" has alwasy been an A student & is graduating high school this May. She had been on the girl's varsity team all throughout high school & involved in many extra curricular activities.
She has always wanted to work in law enforcement. In fact, she had been part of what's called "Police Explorer's" program for high school students.
She had been accepted at numerous colleges (planning on starting college in the fall) on FULL scholarships!
So now she is pregnant. The father is a high school drop out loser. She is planning on keeping the baby (who by the way will be biracial) Her mom (although devastated) is supporting her decision in keeping the baby.
The current plans are that she will graduate high school and then work full time. She will go to college in the evening....and then..
Any words of wisdom regarding teen pregnancy? Any reality checks here? Any way I could encourage her to give the baby up for adoption? Or is that WAY out of line?
Please help out here bmoms..
Thanks a bunch!
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I must admit I'm surprised by your attitude although I was confused by your first paragraph as you have stated that the baby is due in December
. According to my maths the baby should be due in September.
Does it really matter if the boyfriend is a drop out loser? What is more important is that this young woman is healthy and her unborn baby is healthy. She needs support rather than people being judgemental, having "been there" with judgemental attitudes I can assure you it isn't very nice. I am also concerned about the "who by the way will be biracial" ... does it really matter? A baby is a precious gift no matter what the colour of their skin is. However I am thankful that her mother is being supportive as she does need constructive help.
Yes it is way out of line to encourage this young lady to go for adoption and am disgusted that you have this attitude. She a young mother to be who has every right to keep her baby so I'm rather upset by your attitude. If I'd had the support I deserved I would never have allowed my son to be adopted. In this day and age there is plenty of help for single mothers so I do believe you're the one who needs a reality check.
I was 19 and working when I was pregnant so could financially as well as emotionally able to keep my baby. My parents were adament that he was to be adopted, I had no support and I was continually lied to by the social worker. I NEVER wanted to relinquish so eventually the s/w told me it was too late to put a stop to the adoption. Last year I found out that it was a lie and I was devastated. I went through 23 years of regrets and grief at losing my son so the day I found him was one of the best days of my life. You obviously have no idea how devastating it can be to relinquish a child. To add to my pain my son found my family early in his search but they never told him where i was nor did they tell me they had contact with him. That was also cruel to him and he was hurt by their lies.
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