[my3guats]

Here is my .02 on this. I think it depends on a number of things.

First of all how much difference in age? With us our third son was only 5 months older than our other son. This has been difficult for them. I don't mean that it is always difficult but I do think they have both had to compete for the same spot. If say there was a couple of years or more I don't think it would be such an issue.

Second...are you thinking the same gender? Again if they are very close in age and same gender they are competing for same family spot..whereas if they are opposite genders this wouldn't matter so much.

For us we added a third child that was almost the same age. It has been difficult at times but yet it has been lots of fun and the joy is unbelievable. If there is too much difference in ages it is hard as well as their interests and activities are so different. I think that anyone considering an older child adoption(not just changing birth order) should do lots of reading on the topic as you just can't predict on what challenges you may face...but that said watching these older kids experience each new thing and grow and learn is such a joy!