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We adopted out of birth order. We had a 15, 13 and 7 year old, and we added an 11 yo, a 3 yo and a baby (a sibling group) The 7 yo was already plenty used to having older siblings and one more didn't bother her at all -- in fact, since the 7 yo and the 11 yo attend the same school, they are fast friends.
We originally planned to adopt through foster care, but they would not allow us to adopt out of birth order (and at the time we were convinced we did not want to adopt an infant or a toddler -- funny how things work out!) That is what led us to Guatemala -- there were no similar restrictions.
However, it was very valuable learning about why the foster care adoption program did not want to place a child with us. We took their concerns seriously and were very careful to try to find a school age child that would be a safe match for our family (to the extent that is possible to predict, which unfortunately isn't nearly as good as one would like).
Best of luck to you in your adoption process! If I can answer any questions just PM me.
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Straight ..... and pretty sure the second greatest commandment is "love your neighbor," not "make sure your neighbor doesn't do anything mentioned in Leviticus"
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