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momto4boys- The whole idea is to not have your child bond with extended family for some time. They need to first learn who Mom and Dad are and what it means to have parents who care for you. This takes time. We limited exposure to friends and family and would not let anyone else care for our child except us. We met all of her needs. This was important for our child as she had no idea what family living was all about and wanted to get her needs met by anyone who could be charmed by her. It was a survival skill she learned at the orphanage. I don't know how old the child you are adopting will be, but chances are they have learned some life skills based on experience with multiple caregivers and neglect. This needs to be unlearned and new lessons in family dynamics take their place. It takes a lot of time and effort to change things. We found that strong attachment parenting was the only thing that worked.
LilyMoon
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