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For me as an adoptive mind there are few challenges:
1. Seeing bmom's sadness during visits with ds and feeling totally powerless to help her or through it or to make it "better" in some way because I know I cannot.
2. Worrying if she will permanently disappear from our/ds's life at some point... She's had stretches of a few months of not returning calls or dropping plans for visits through prolonged silence. I've learned to back off when she "disappears" as its a sign that she needs her space and time before she can be in contact again. I just worry that one day she'll take that space and run with it and ds will be left wondering what happened to her in his life...
3. Worrying so much about bmom herself -- her well being, physical safety, etc. There has been a lot of pretty bad stuff going on for her in the past and caring about her as I do, its hard not to worry for her life in the most basic sense.
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