Who is the "real" mom???
My 6 year old son said something yesterday that just about broke my heart. He came to live with us when he was 23 mos. old. We were friends with his Bmom and were trying to help her keep him. When it became evident that she couldn't, she signed him over to us. We always believed she tried her best and loved him and so we decided to have an open adoption (send letters, gifts, pics). Anyway, she sent him his Christmas/birthday gifts and we picked them up at the post office. I said, "Are you a lucky little boy to have 2 mommies who love you so much?!" And he says, "Yeah, I have my real mom and I have..(pause while he thinks)....you." I could have cried. She neglected him, didn't even feed or bathe him some days. She tried to abort him and put him in dangerous places. That's why DHHR took him anyway! Why does she get to be the "real mom"?!! I was the one who dealt with the after affects of all the neglect, the sexual abuse, the developmental delays. I'm the one who sat up with him all night when he was scared. She was the one who would just leave him at a restaurant and disappear for months at a time! I know most bmoms here are wonderful and she really is too. She was just young and her parents were even worse!, but why doesn't my baby think I'm his "real" mom? Sorry, just had to vent. It really hurts.
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