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I have a 5 year old son who has told me this weekend that he hates me, want a new mom, doesn't want his hamster, the dog, the cat, his toys, his grandma, his papa, no cousins, oh and he HATES me!
He wants what he wants, he thinks he can do what HE wants, WHEN HE wants, no what he's told to do or when he's told to do it.
We don't have a baby for him to hit, but I've been clocked a couple of times and bitten more times that I care to count.
He's on a major control path at the moment and he really needs to get over it quickly. My son cannot be given an inch - EVER! No has to mean no, not well, ok. And it's sometimes a fight. I've thrown out toys, taking them away doesn't really get through to him, because 'I'll get them back!". But when the hit the trash can, he really goes of the deep end and realizes I'm serious.
He's turned into quite a master manipulator. When he's too much at school, he goes to the office. Hello, he LOVES that, He and the principal play games. If he's trouble at lunch, he gets to eat with the teacher in his room - again - HELLO! what could be better - undivided attention. He threw a MAJOR tantrum as school on Friday because he didn't want to go to school, so I had to go pick him up. He got exactly what he wanted.
He's exhausting. And I'm not always the best mom/dad (I'm single) that I should be. I've yelled at him and beat myself up for it. I've sent him to his room crying because, I just can't deal with him for another second, until I calm down myself.
WE ALL SUCK AS PARENTS! Embrace that fact, move on. Vent to us. Get some kid-free time. I know I'm kicking myself for giving up bowling this year. Those 2 hours a week of Q-free were great and I'm really starting to realize how much I really need it!
So stop beating yourself up. Apologize to yourself, you're gonna suck again. But most of the time, you are the greatest mom ever!
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