[Bug-n-Bears-Mommy]

I understand what you are saying. We finalized Bug on Dec 30. We still have to wait for TPR of Bear. Bmom relinquished, but b-dad is still trying to fight for "his rights". Let me say that b-dad is in JAIL!! We are talking 10-LIFE. Why?? Because he is a sex offender. The reason he is currently incarcerated is because of his actions that led to the conception of Bear! Bmom was 13 at the time of conception. You would think that they would not even give him the time of day. BUT, he is allowed his day in court. Crazy isn't it?

As we understand, he will be denied, they will grant TPR, and we are supposed to file the adoption petition RIGHT away. Unlike Bug wehere we had to wait the 30 day appeal time, they are expecting him to appeal, and the appeal to be denied. At the 30 da mark they want us to go in and finalize so that bdad's mother can't then petition for custody. They can just say "he has been adopted".

That is my anxiety. What is there is some loop hole that she can eventually come back and have the whole thing overturned? I wish I could offer some support in how NOT to go crazy, but I have a hard time with it myself at times. I guess sometimes just knowing that you are not alone is often comforting. Best of luck to you.