Aura.... I can REALLY hear you on this one. And I have to say that you are one brave cookie!!! You also have all the geographic stuff RIGHT THERE so it was bound to happen... and probably the sooner the better.
My bfamily and afamily are far apart and I am far from both of them. So, I don't have to cross this bridge. I can understand what you are saying though as I think my bmom and amom are very different people and a meeting might be really uncomfortable - regardless of how "nice" everyone was.
Have you "prepared" each of them for how the other is "different"? Have you STRESSED to each of them the WONDERFUL aspects of the other person? Acknowledging the differences while FOCUSING on the positives is a good plan I think.
How supportive are your aparents GENERALLY of this whole reunion business? Their level of comfort could have a lot to do with whether they choose to look for the good.. or the bad. And.. visa versa.
Keep talking.. this is good stuff!
