|
Searching
Mary,
In the early days of my reunion, my husband was my rock, he drew bubble baths for me when he knew that was what I needed, brought me snacks, held me when I cried and could not have been more supportive. But as much as he wanted to truly understand what I was going through - and he did try - but, he just could not really "get" it. Non-triad members can be very supportive, but, few really make me feel understood and can validate my feelings.
Give your family a chance though. Even if they don't ask, tell them that you'd love some encouragement. Maybe they just don't know what to say. Maybe they can offer it - maybe not - but what do you have to lose by asking?
Yes, it would be better to find a p.i. or a search organization that specializes in adoption - or at least supports reunions and has some experience. Go to a search engine like google or yahoo and type in the state that your adoption occurred in and the word "search" "searcing" or "support groups". There might be a website specific for searching in your state and that might help you find some search help and/or a referral to a reputable p.i.
Good luck!
|