[waxhawfamily]

I went to Russia for my adoption. I was told to expect 6-9 months for completion, but it actually took 17 months due to changes in the process and governing bodies while I was in process. I wanted Russia because there was already one child in my family adopted from there, and I thought that would be just one more link for us as an extended family.

My friend wanted to adopt as well, and decided against Russia because of my delays. She is now delayed herself with the Ukraine. She is at the one year mark right now. In retrospect, she wishes she had gone with Russia, because once they finalized their changes, the adoptions are rolling at a normal pace now.

There is just no way to know. I can tell you that Russia is running smooth now, if you are considering other countries. I can also tell you that if you hang in there, you should be able to adopt from the Ukraine - if this is where your heart is. It may just take more patience to adopt from the Ukraine right now, than from another country.

One look at your child, no matter how long you have to wait, and it will all be worth it. I know. The 17 months it took us were agonizing, especially since we were expecting 6 - 9 months. However, I can hardly remember those tormenting months of waiting - since we have now been home 6 months.

Give changing countries some thought if you do not have a particular tie to the Ukraine. If you do want to go with the Ukraine, don't be scared off. Just do what you can with your end of this process, wait it out, and pray alot.