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Oh dear! I think you are getting from bmom what many bmoms get from adoptees!
I can understand your frustration & disappointment. I too thought that once we had met my son would want to talk things through and spend a bit more time trying to establish some kind of relationship (or disappear entirely because he had the "information" he required) and that seemed normal to me - as it does to you.
However, if your bmom is a single parent with 3 small kids & also is trying to hold down a job & study all at the same time, she really & truly may have precious little free time. I know that this is very frustrating for you. However, you will have to be patient (like so many of we bmoms have to be) and accept the email every 4 weeks or so. At least she IS keeping in touch with you!
I also wondered if she might feel a bit torn/overwhelmed by the emotions reunion brings and need a little bit of distance to cope with it all when she has so many other responsibilities on her plate at the same time? Perhaps she has been told that many adoptees also need "time & space" to process and she doesn't want to overwhelm you by being pushy.
Please try & be patient. I know that this is very hard but she genuinely does have a great deal to cope with at this point in her life and, as her kids grow a bit older, the grad school finishes, etc, she may have a bit more time that she can spend with you to develop your relationship.
I am glad that you decided to share your concerns here. At least you will receive sympathy & support. Just keep posting every time you are worried (or feeling happy) & let others help you to get through what will probably be a temporary setback for you.
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