[Brock5]

I have been through a step parent adoption process in another state with my oldest child...I was divorced and now I'm remarried. I was separated from my ex for 2 years due to our divorce taking FOREVER! I have sole physical custody..and he has joint legal custody...he has seen the children 4 times in the past 2 years for a total of no more than 24 hrs! It took me a year and a half to get child support...b/c he didn't want to pay and had his lawyer delay it in court...finally he's been paying for over a year now. He calls the kids once every 2 months or so and talks to them for 5 or so min...I'm remarried now..and my husband wants to adopt my children..he and his family are so good to us! I was divorced in another state (where ex resides) but at the time of the divorce I had been living in yet another state for the 2 years prior. I heard that I would have to get the case transferred here to terminate his parental rights...is this true? My husband and I have an appt with an atty next Friday to discuss this. I haven't heard from my ex since Nov. He was supposed to have had the children for his first holiday with them in almost 3 years during Christmas..but we never heard from him. Not even a phone call on Christmas Day! What can we do? I want to approach him with the idea of adoption but afraid of what he'll say. He has moved on and has other children now with his girlfriend/wife...heck I don't even know if he's married or what his situation (home life is like) I don't know exactly how many children he has...he won't tell me...which I too think is detrimental to our children seeming if they hadve visited they would have been shocked to know they have brothers/sisters he never told them about. My children are happy and would like my husband to adopt them...he's been "daddy" for almost a year now....Any help or suggestions would be greatly appreciated!