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Telling the truth, perfect times.
Mommy 24 - I did not tell my other children - no one knew - and I WAS ashamed - not of my son - but that I had "given him away". Sorry if that term offends some - that was how it felt personally to me. The term "placement" (which I loath) did not exist then.
Until my son found me four years ago, I hadn't told a soul - too afraid and ashamed. After he found me, I told them -they have not taken the news well. Our relationships suffered for awhile. Now I know that had I told them years ago things might be different now. Both of my other two are married - one with children of her own. I have been asked not to tell my grandchildren about their uncle. Neither of my children wants contact with their half brother, nor do they want to discuss it. They love me as their mom, but, they are embarrassed and instead of taking it out on me (who they know and love) they have chosen instead to pretend that their brother does not exist.
So, yes, I agree that waiting to tell the truth only makes it way worse - and a perfect time may never happen. I have 3 children who may never all meet - and I have no one to blame but myself - and now I am paying the price.
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