Have you considered that her background before she got to your house may have been a place where peopel withheld food from her as a punishment or for other reasons.... in such a place, she probably learned that her needs would not be met and therefore gave up asking for what she needs.
Maybe she needs you to keep reminding her until she finally believes it to be true that you will never withold food from her or not feed her if she is hungry.
Plus she's new and its a big adjustment...she doesn't know yet what to expect in your house although she remembers what to expect in her previous place of residence.
Sorta off topic but reminds me of this a little bit..have you read the book White Oleander?
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Originally Posted by twinsbk
My daughter(9) was placed in our home on 12/2/05. Last night she cried and yelled for 2 hrs. The last time I entered the room she calmed down and I found out, all of this was because she was hungry. The rules of the house are no eating after 9pm because this is bedtime.
This crying spell upset the entire house and I don't understand why she couldn't tell me this. I explained communication and allowed her to fix a sandwich. Now I'm questioning myself of why I didn't follow the rules.
I need help on this!!
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