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Adoptive parents, don't be guilted into feeling like you are lying or keeping a secret from your beloved child. You are not, you are protecting their psyche's until they are mature enough to handle. Only YOU know when. Wait until you feel the time is right for your little one. Trust your God given instincts. For adoptive parents are chosen. This is not a role for everyone. Be strong for them.
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I have shared my son's adoption story with him since birth, and it is not due to guilt. He will comprehend it naturally as his "psyche can handle it". It will not be an event for him, it will be a seamless blooming of comprehension just as just about everything in this world is to him. It is certainly in a parent's power to wait, but I disagree that it is best. The bonds formed between parent and child are not contingent upon a child believing that he or she was born of one's flesh (as would naturally be the assumption if not told otherwise -- lying by omission). Unpleasant details can certainly wait, but the earlier a child knows the better. I strongly believe that.
celinenj02, what damage do you feel would come to your son's psyche if he knew he was adopted?