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alot of people brought up some good points.
Id just like to take this moment to point out that one can not assume she has the maturity and ablitly to ask for what she needs.
alot of older kids that come from the 'system' are on survival mode. They learn through certain things on how to get attention and get what they want.
This is NOT their fault! But we as parents have to teach them what is an appopriate way to ask for things and screaming and yelling isnt one of them.
but also, keep in miind, is that is probably all she knows how to do and by asking her to change her old ways is very difficult. I think alot of people have a hard time changing.
Food issues is a very common problem with kids in the system also, because it is one thing that they do have the ability to control. "I will eat when i am hungry, and you cant make me"
It might sound harsh and spoiled, but the reality is, they have had such little control over anything, that if they find something that they can control, they will hold onto that control for as long as they need to, and that can take a very long time, especially someone who has numerous placements.
I understand your rule, and you do need to stick to it. Yes, she will continue to yell and scream, but she will eventually get it (hopefully).
numbr1dbcksfan,
I agree, there is no comparing homemade mac and cheese, to the mac and cheese in the box.
two totally different foods, and I would even go so far to say, totally different food groups....lol
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