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Ditto aMarylandfamily
Are you adopting her or is it a foster situation? I think either way the below suggestions apply.
I like aMarylandfamily's suggestion about making your normal dinner and than having something else for her to eat if she tries it and does not like it. There are two things going on, one her world was just drastically changed and two she is 9. My step-daughter is 16 and can still be a pain about what she will and will not eat. Be less concerned about getting her trust and love than sticking to rules. If a kid is hungry they need to be able to eat and I think it is totally old-fashion and mean to force kids to eat something they hate. Tell her that this adjustment will take time but that you can work through it together. Bring her food shopping and give her a list of items to pick or an amount of money if she is capable and let her pick things. Maybe get some frozen dinners and the whole family will eat whatever frozen dinner they want one night and another night make Kraft Mac and Cheese for the family...with hotdogs on the side is a fun treat for kids. Or find a side dish that she likes and make extra of it so that she can fill up on the mashed potatoes or mac and cheese instead of the chicken. Realize that she has probably had no control over her 9 years of life and it is not a bad thing for you to give her control. Also, she is probably scared to tell you what she really wants.
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