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Hi,

Our first foster daughter was three when she came to us and we had her for eight months and were told she would be ours forever. She has now been adopted by her aunt and uncle.
Our second foster daughter came to us at two weeks old and eventually went to family.
Our foster son was three and he just left our home a week ago and went to an aunt.

We were told all three times that these children would be our forever children; just to have them end up with family.

I keep myself sane by knowing that these children needed somebody to love them like they were my own even if it was only for a short time that I had them. I know that God sent them to us for us to help them and them to help us. They each blessed us with so much love and we learned new life lessons from each of them.

I know that it is hard. I also know that it is worth it. We are fortunate in that each of their families are great family and they have all been willing to remain open with us and send us updates on the children and even let us see them sometimes.

I also agree that it is hard to love them unconditionally when we don't know if we are forever parents or babysitters. I always have to remind myself that they need all my love regardless of what the outcome is to be.

I don't know if any of that rambling helped, but if you need to chat with somebody who understands feel free to pm me.

Good luck to you and your family.