[lovestruck]

We've been very blessed to have the majority of people be extremely supportive. But what surprised me the most was my father. We aren't all that close, but we do have a relationship. He raised four of my step mother's children from small ages, so of all people I thought he would be on board, so when he started talking about all the horor stories of people he knew that adopted and it ruined their lives and did I think it was a good idea since we already have two healthy boys, etc I was SHOCKED. I do think he will end up treating my bio kids and the baby differently and if that happens even the first time that will be the last time. I hope my fears are wrong. Now, in saying that, if she turns out healthy and has no problems then he'll think it's the best thing ever. We keep telling him, look there are no guarantees that you aren't going to have mental or development issues with bio kids, so, like we did when pregnant with the boys, we hope she's healthy and when she comes home if she's got various issues, we love her, get her the treatment she needs and go on with life just like we would have if our boys would have had issues or even still develop them.

Other than him everyone is supportive, although every now and then we do get that, oh it takes a special person......I'm sure you've all heard it, maybe at least once.

And Stephanie, I'm sorry that you didn't and don't have the support from your family and that makes me think even more of you (I always look forward to your post). I have a close friend who wants to adopt so badly and her family is so negative about adoption that she won't do it. It breaks my heart. So I think it's great that you and your husband have pushed forward doing what you believe is right for the two of you rather than giving in to the pressures from others.