[BabyBound]

Thank you first for bringing up the subject. My DH and I were surprised that not everyone was as gun-ho about adoption as we were. After years of trying and a never ending song of "it will happen IN TIME..." we were very excited to begin our adoption research.

My DH likes to call me a collaborator, because of the fact that I have to have everyone's input before I make any truly important decisions in our lives. He says I go through the roll call making sure the ayes have it before I commit to anything and our decision to adopt was no different.

Most of our family knew our history with infertility and were please to know that we hadn't given up on having children. Some worked through there reservations about adopting after hearing "our case".


However, there were some whom we felt had to be coaxed into an international adoption. I am sure you all have heard the question, "Why don’t you just adopt domestically? There are children right outside your back door that need homes just as much as any foreign kid would."

In our family’s defense, they were not trying to be bigots. They just couldn’t understand why we were drawn to adoption in China. Our families are of Spanish decent and they just assumed if any international adoption might be considered surely a Spanish baby would do for us.

It took time and a lot of tact from my DH to get them to understand that we had looked into domestic adoption, however we were looking for a permanence that we felt was not possible through adopting domestically. The question of why to adopt from China has been passed around this forum for quite sometime. There are no right answers, just what feels right to you.

We chose to pursue our daughter of China because in this program we found a need. Daughters that wanted homes and a people with a culture and history as deeply rooted in family and tradition as our own. We could have gone to Guatemala, or Mexico or even Columbia, but we weren't looking for someone who would look like us. We were looking for someone who needed our love. We chose it with our hearts.

Our daughter will never look like us but she will also never know a lack of love and we will support her always. We hope that our love and faith in GOD will bestow in her a sense of self that will carry her through her life.

We know that there will be those ppl out there who will question or even critique our happy little family, but we hope that as in all things we will have the love and support of our families and each other to weather through any misadventures we may have to endure.

To all who have had to answer these questions of why and what fore I wish you all the love and blessings that this world has to offer. Good luck and much success to you all.